It is about the Most Happening thing at work locations. In a survey by TOI, it is around 55%, seems quite high for a country like INDIA, isn’t it? Quite shocking results! Most of them are from metros & cities! Even it is rapidly mounting more in IT and other major corporate sectors. Now, you are wondering what it is all about. It is nothing but extra marital affairs at work and or office romance. Since India is traditional country, all these affairs are hidden a lot, but one should know the fact, understand the factors and take proper steps for better relations.
There are several reasons behind these affairs, You should be aware of these facts.
1- You may be aware of the fact that all corporate comapny employees are spending most of their active time at office. As per standard working hours at work , They are left with 35% of their active time only to spend with their spouse/love or even less some time. People share common interests (work) + extended time together (40 hrs) + physical attraction – These factors always prone to end up in office romance.
2- Sometimes when you are unsatisfied with your relationship you start to think “What is available out there?” In a way it is an escape, you feel like you want to be out from the burden in your marriage/love. “Grass is greener on the other side” – and so it seems.
3- You start flirting with others, innocently at first, then you start THINKING of ‘what ifs’ situations such as ‘what if I’m married to/ in love with this colleague of mine?’ Forgetting one thing can lead to another, slowly bringing you into an extra marital/love affair – trapping yourself to another problem.
4- Some people may indulge in it as revenge either because the spouse did or did not do something. Or the revenge may stem from rage.
How to avoid these affairs
1- More than 40 hours work per a week is unavoidable now a days, if you want to be in a race of competitive world. Tell me who don’t want to lead better life all the time, but one should not ruin their life and values for this. Earning money and fame is not only enough for better life. You should have balanced life with relationship and vales as well. You should structure your mind to this.
2- Don’t ever extend your communication to personal matters much with colleagues of opposite sex. If you both really want to be good friends, make it a family relationship rather than a personal relationship ( Let both sides of families know your friendship and maintain relationship with family which helps to stay from this kind of affairs).
3- You have only 35% of your active time to spend with your love/spouse, don’t allow any colleague to take away that precious time. Is it really worth giving to some one else more than your spouse/love relationship? What is it for? Keep Examine yourself before moving with someone else innocently.
4- You should remember the fact that, at work, people present a side of themselves that is not representative of the whole person. It’s the circumstances that make the difference.
5- If you are already indulge in this kind of affairs, Take actions to get away from it now itself. Realize early before it is too late to get out of it.
Start distancing yourself away from your other partner – start moving away physically and verbally first. You can’t suddenly stop thinking of them – human nature says it’s impossible.
Start discussing with your partner/spouse about the discomforts in your relationship. Sort out the issues at your best. You should make yourself flexible to get the solutions then only it is reasonable to get the same response from your spouse/partner. Learn to trust one’s self.